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Hi gadfly,

Just want to let you know that I'm in the same position as you. Among all the people I know, I am still the most useless one.

But I hope life will be better for you in time to come. Take care.

Written by Whatever, Sep 7 2008 11:19 AM

why do you say you're useless?

anything worth it is not easy.

everybody grow at their own pace. your friends are ready for marriage/become a parent. we all need new challenges. for you and most of us here, perhaps our challenge is to defeat depression.

my shrink said something interesting to me on friday. he said 'before i can care for others, i must take good care of myself first.' in a relationhip, especially intimate ones you need committment. if you are constantly tired and depressed do you think your other half can enjoy the time together?

take it easy. no rush. run your own race

ps; sleeping is essential. infact, i need 8 hours of sleep daily to function.

Written by Anonymous, Sep 7 2008 02:36 PM

Jaded,

I certainly agree with you. I remember in an earlier post, someone actually said we're a group hungry for love. I can't agree more...

In my opinion, when we're tempted to end it all(yet not really determined), we're really really just craving for more attention aka love.

I gave this matter a lot of thought. One week ago, I was very tempted to OD, just to get more attention from this guy who had been showering loads of care on me since I fell ill. In the end I did not. Series of events happened that fateful night that simply robbed me of the time to OD. It ended up me being a great help and that chap being very grateful to me. I was really glad that I was of help rather than a burden (think of the trauma of discovering me OD).

I ask myself, would ppl trust me again if I'd OD? When I was tempted to cut myself, I ask myself how others (potential mate for life) would feel when they see the scar? Do I really want them to live in constant worry that I'll do all this to myself again?

I tell myself in order to commit to a relationship, I must make sure I can contribute and not be the one that my mate must look after for the rest of his life. I'm even reluctant to start a relationship now cos I don't want it to be on a foundation of sympathy.

So, don't rush. Don't compare with people around you. Nothing is fair in this world. Take your time, treatment/meds included, to get better, then well. Then, everything will fall into place.

Have faith... It will!

Written by Moissanite, Sep 7 2008 04:58 PM

moisannite,

hope you are feeling better. please do not OD cos it is such a painful process. please do not cut cos people will be upset. i'm speaking from my own experience

gadfly,

how's it going?

take care

Written by Anonymous, Sep 9 2008 05:19 PM

Hi Jaded,

Thanks for caring. Don't worry, I won't. It's Bella and Sad Girl we have to convince to not do it (in another thread on cutting).

I've started work for 2 days but sad to say, both days I suffered panic attacks to the point I had to have bed rest. Out of desperation, I even took my medications which I'd successfully staved off for a month.

A little disheartened but is not giving up yet. I suppose it's part of the process to recovery.

Cheers everyone, don't give up!!

Written by Moissanite, Sep 9 2008 06:22 PM

jade n moissanite>> ok

Written by 71damsel, Sep 9 2008 11:43 PM

its very normal to feel down i am living in a state of perpectual tiredness tat i cannot stop doing things otherwise i will just lapse into apathy.

Ask god and he will release u from ur burden.

Written by light, Oct 19 2008 12:27 AM